i’m worried im a terf…
So im a queer woman who grew up doing musical theatre and being a woman hockey player.
one of my best friends is trans and i enjoy drag shows but when i think about it for more than a few seconds i start poking holes in my own reality.
I often see trans women being misogynistic towards women and not respecting our worldviews as women while simultaneously saying we must uphold theirs.
and honestly a lot of the time drag queens depict women gives me a yucky and uncomfortable feeling about the caricature of femininity and womanhood.
I try to shake these thoughts and feelings so much but it’s hard when it doesn’t feel like trans women are trying to bridge our gap but make cis women jump through more hoops to make them comfortable and if you call out the behaviour you get called transphobic.
i love trans women and my best friend is very dear to me but i can’t help shake this feeling.
found on r/confessions
I don’t feel welcome in the LGBT community as a trans woman
I’m a 19 year old straight, trans woman who has yet to begin estrogen, but I am hoping to begin transitioning this year.
I’ve known I was trans since I was 16, and being in a family where the overwhelming majority of people treat LGBT and especially those who are trans like shit has made things rough for me.
I’ve always thought I could take comfort, knowing that I’m a part of the LGBT community but I was so wrong.
I have been told various, bigoted things from mostly cisgender gay men, but lesbians, bisexual people, and even other trans people seem to partake in this sick behavior as well.
I disapprove of these people not because of their sexuality or gender identity, but because of their bigotry.
I’d like to live with the feeling that people don’t treat my existence as a straight up joke. But I can never live with that feeling because it’s never going to be reality.
And the fact that the people in a community that I’m supposedly a part of have turned against me shows that there’s no way for things to change.
found on r/offmychest